Monthly Archives: November 2016

My disinterest is not your cue to insult or guilt trip me

The Slutty Sage

I’m really tired of seeing this behavior.  I’ve seen it countless times in both my personal and professional lives.  Goes like this:

A: “Would you like to engage in some activity with me?”
B: “No thank you.”
A: “You didn’t seem good enough for this anyway.”


A: “Would you like to engage in some activity with me?”
B: “No thank you.”
A: “That’s too bad, it would’ve been so good!”

Just accept “no” as an answer and move on.  If anything, an appropriate response would be, “Ok, thank you for your time.”

Here are some real life examples:

Just this morning I got a message from one of you lovely Fet members.  (If you happen to see this, btw, this is why I blocked you!)  He asked if I was interested in a modeling shoot.  After asking for details and not finding them to my liking, I replied with…

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The Wheelbarrow by Joel F

Joys of Joel

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Push to the limit like a wheelbarrow
Stop digging your past sorrows

Learn to roll with its wheels and lift it
Move forward and walk with it.

Live life and love every minute
Let the flowers bloom and never limit

Fill it with seeds of love and hope.
Grasp the handle and learn to cope.

Put in the soil with dirt and laughter.
Soon you will reap all its fruits thereafter

Cultivate the roots and water your flowers
The seeds of your thoughts will be its showers.

Kindly Click/Tap Photo or Link To Read   The Garden That You Keep.  Thanks.

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Copyright © 2015 Joys of Joel by Joel F. All Rights Reserved.

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Circumstance Unrelated. PART XIII – Drinking with Horses



Amidst the backdrop of Napoleonic War raging across Europe, soldiers seek distraction from the horrors of the battle field. Major Grant is an officer of the British Army serving under Wellington in France. An officer, a gentleman and a connoisseur of female bottoms, Major Grant finds himself unusually captivated by a mysterious woman…..

By evening I had continued to walk and found not a soul or dwelling where food could be sought. I was now desperate with thirst and knew I must find assistance in the next village. The residents of Toulon were conspicuous by their absence; it was a tidy place and appeared even more so without people. A horse was drinking from a central water stand so I decided to join him. I quenched my thirst and patted the elderly nag on the neck.

The cocking of a musket close by told me that I would unwise…

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“Imagining Alternatives” – CFP for a Special Issue of Resilience: A Journal of the Environmental Humanities

Megan Condis

I will be editing this special issue!  Please help spread the word and feel free to get in touch if you have any questions.

From Afrofuturism to dystopian, apocalyptic fiction to alternate history to ecofeminism and cli-fi, authors of speculative fictions have been interrogating alternative worlds in literature, film, television, comic books, and video games. These visions give us access to alien planets as well as alternative perspectives on our own pasts, presents, and possible futures. They reflect our hopes and fears; they offer new narratives of race, class, gender, sexuality, and nationality; they suggest the magic and the horror embedded in our own realities.

This special issue of Resilience: A Journal of the Environmental Humanities invites authors to interrogate imagined alternatives to existing systems of knowledge and distributions of power.  We are interested in submissions engaging with a wide variety of subjects, genres, mediums, time periods, and national origins:…

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Unsung heroes pt4: John Baku – father of FetLife


Unsung hero of the day: John Baku (on right, here w James Golick, ex-CTO of FetLife)


“Do you know John Baku?” was proposed as the secret handshake of us kinksters, referring to the father of FetLife, who all of us should thank, but few know the name of.

The community he created has brought loners together, made freaks feel better about themselves and contributed to increasing the pleasure (and pain) level in the world. My life certainly would have been bleaker without his work. The orgasms I’ve had and tears I have shed thanks to the universe he created and its inhabitants are uncountable.

fetlifeFetLife is not a dating site, which I personally find equally liberating and frustrating depending on mood, but a community of kinksters. Just like any other community counting millions of members, there are issues and seriously dodgy people, but the creativity, openness, quirkyness and fright…

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A new twist …. for balance.

nijntje & The Bear

I’m really liking this new system of checks and balances you have implemented Sir. It’s leaving me feel validated and ‘owned’ and wanted. I feel like I have your attention and that my efforts are worth while … I don’t feel like I have to bratt to get attention because frankly I just can’t do it.

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Although there is a lot of playfulness and teasing in our relationship the level and intensity of the interaction is not the same as what a bratt/correction would be and I have a feeling that’s why many choose to go that way. The smiles and giggles from both sides automatically make the intensity less charged.

I imagine that by being bratty and having to be kept in check and corrected the connection is intense and the feeling of control heightened, in effect actually rewarding the bad behaviour. I guess that’s fine if it works…

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